It's not a pretty story I linked. What's surprising is that this doesn't happen a lot more often.
I think a huge number of kids suffer from bullies in one form or another. I did, both at home and while waiting for the school bus in kindergarten. For me, it didn't tend to happen too much at school cause I've always been bigger than average and able to take care of myself. I dealt with random bullies in school, but not as any sort of steady thing. So the bullying I got was at home. And it mostly stopped when I was 12 years old and taught the bully a good lesson: I'd grown up and could fight better than expected.
Yes, it took violence. Even then, it didn't stop, but it got better.
The schools talk about all these anti-bullying programs. And I bet the programs don't help one iota. Why? Because bullies don't care. The only thing that stops the bullies is getting beat up. They don't care if someone says, "That's not nice, don't do that." That just makes them smile inside, I think. They don't care if teacher yells at them.
What they care about is that there is someone smaller and weaker than they are, and they're going to make that person miserable in attempt for the bully to feel better.
And the only way to stop it is for the bully to get his ass kicked. Badly. By the victim (or victims, if needed). And if that doesn't do it, beat him again and again, worse and worse. Until it stops.
Bullying shouldn't be tolerated. But if the schools can't stop it (and they can't), then the kids need to do it. As far as I'm concerned, chronic bulliers are rabid dogs. Either they stop or they get put down.
Not very politically correct? Suck it up. If your kid is being a bully, I hope he gets his ass kicked. Repeatedly, until he amends his behavior. And if you tolerate his bully behavior, then I hope you get what you deserve, too.
Humor!!! - It's such a shame no one explained or showed mom how to teach this kid how to deal with the bullies in a positive way using humor. While nothing in a shcool kid's life should be taken lightly, we need to teach our kids that perspective is everything and humor is a very powerful disarmer. I know, my parents taught me & I passed that on to my child, I taught him to take the name/insult & "make it his own in a joking way; don't let the bully think they hurt your feelings. Act positive while ignoring or downplaying the bullies. Soon others were calling him by the bully name & he would answer - as if it was a nick name - It stuck & he made more friends with the nickname including he bully! - because in doing that everyone realized it rendered the bully's tool powerless to hurt without antagonizing anyone. Instead it became just another goofy thing kids do. It's so sad this kid was allowed to get so low that he no longer got to see anything humorus for relief. Instead of victimizing kids with obsessive defensiness over bullies.; lets start using good old fashioned parenting 101 to help overwhelmed moms & dads that never got that from their own parents learn how to help their kids before it's too late!
agreed
